My Mom & Real Estate

Real Estate investments begins with one property at a time. Often, when you hear people talk about real estate investing they are talking big numbers. You hear about the millions to be made in the market, especially now when everyone is buying. You hear stories about the people who own 50 or more single family homes or bought a package of 10 investment properties. You hear about the people who syndicate large apartment deals or buy a smaller apartment complex of their own. What gets lost in the hype is that the vast majority of these investors began with just one property.

My Mom story, like many successful real estate investors, begins with one small property in Texas. It took her a while to buy or invest in property. My understanding she made lots of offers before one was accepted, and walked away from a few deals for a variety of reasons, most of which had more to do with fear than with the numbers. Finally, one of her mentors looked her in the eye and said, “buy this property or I will buy it myself.” So Mom bought the property that no one else would buy.

My Mom once said, “Every successful investor has a story.” Well truth is most Investors are just like you, and me: scared of making a wrong choice, but are determined to change their finanical situation. Another thing my Mom would say, “find a mentor you can trust;” following their advice, makes that first purchase easier and more successful.”

Her first rental investment property down in Houston was a diamond in the rough. Once cut and polished, she captured $36,000 in equity and a cash flow after all costs of $429.00 month – this from a house that no one wanted to buy! I remember her mentor telling her, “Someone lives in every house on this street and someone will live here too. The question is, will you be the one who profits from it?”

The next house came shortly after with an equity capture of $21,000 and $324.00 month cash flow after all expenses. The third house represents an equity capture of $27,000 and $290 month in cash flow. All of these properties have an ROI of 43% per year or more.

A picture is forming, right? For most of us, it is not one big deal that takes us from a J-O-B to retirement. It is taking the first step and following the correct road map that leads you to the retirement of your dreams. 

Question: What are you working towards?

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Women cringe at the word: Moist

Say the word “moist” in front of a woman, any woman, and she’ll cringe while announcing her hatred of the word. The word moist is like the Jennifer Love Hewitt of the English language — every woman despises it but none can clearly explain why.

Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc was asked about a research study to get to the bottom of the vitriol for such a harmless word.

Twenty-one percent of the people in the study had an aversion to the unloved word. It turns out that the sounds don’t have much to do with that effect. Similar-sounding words, such as “foist,” did not generate the same reaction. Because those words also put your facial muscles in similar positions, we can also discount the disgust-facial expression theory.

So what about the meaning? Well, people found “moist” most aversive when it follows an unrelated, pleasant word, such as “paradise.” There seems to be a contrast effect going on here. “Moist” seems bad when following “paradise” but not when following a really negative word, like a racial slur. “Moist” also didn’t seem so unpleasant when it followed words related to food, such as “cake.” In contrast, it provoked the most negative reactions when preceded by overtly sexual words (use your imagination). These results show that reminding people of certain meanings of “moist” can affect one’s disgust reaction to it.

Further analysis showed that “moist”-averse people also tend to dislike related words, such as “damp” and “wet,” showing further support for the idea that it’s the meaning, not the sound, of the word that’s setting people off. “Moist”-averse people also tended to have more general disgust reactions to bodily functions, suggesting that it’s the connotations with bodily functions and sex that sets people off.

Here were the findings, summed up by the good folks over at Nautilus.

–  They gave participants a set of words and asked them to rate how, whether, and to what degree, each word made them uncomfortable.

–  They gave participants a set of words and asked them to rate how, whether, and to what degree, each word made them uncomfortable.

–  Can we go back and discuss the “moist followed by a racial slur” part because I’m dying to know what slurs they used in the study. Any slur I can think of sounds more hilarious than offensive.

So basically, half of the people hated the meaning of the word and the other half hated the sound of the word. Overall, people just love to hate on moist. Moist don’t care. It will still show up on cake mix boxes and in episodes of Barefoot Contessa. She tosses around moist like it’s a racial slur, too.

Now that we’ve got the whole moist thing wrapped up, ask your girl why she hates the word panties. And then ask her how she feels about the term “moist panties.” Watch her almost vomit.

Learn Your Condom Size

…These days, condoms are like coffee. You don’t just walk into a Starbucks and say, “Give me a coffee.”

Practicing safe sex won’t do you much good if your condom is too big, or too small.

It’s been a better than average few weeks for anyone with a small penis. As you may have heard, Science Has Revealed the Average Penis Size, and it’s only 3.6 inches.

But having a diminutive dick doesn’t make condom purchasing any easier. In fact, the smaller your penis, the more complicated it can be to find a condom that fits correctly.

Why? Because condoms have traditionally been manufactured as one-size-fits-all, and that size isn’t small. Many guys are too bashful to shop around, so they buy the first condom brand they recognize at a drug store, and end up having an uncomfortable—or worse, unsafe—sexual experience.

The SurveyStud, Inc researchers who conducted the penis size study stated in their published report that they hoped the data would be used to “investigate the relationship between condom failure and penile dimensions.” Research on the topic have yielded mixed results.

According to SIECUS, the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, condoms fall off during sex up to 5.4 percent of the time, or slip down the penis without falling off up to 13.1 percent of the time.

But another study, by the Indian Council of Medical Research, found that up to 20 percent of condoms fail to work properly because they’re just not the right size.

A Google search shows that condom slippage is certainly a popular item. “Condom comes off” will bring back 1.4 million results. A search for “condom too big” gets 3.9 million results. And what about “condom too small”? A measly 1.2 million.

“Small size is an area of the market that’s being ignored,” says George T. Reynolds, CEO, SurveyStud, Inc. And to make matters worse, the size information on many condom packages is less than helpful.

Take the Trojan Magnum, celebrated by rappers as the macho standard: It’s actually smaller in width than Trojan’s SUPRA Lubricated, and about the same length as the Thintensity Lubricated.

“Unfortunately, the sizes many manufacturers give aren’t accurate,” says Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc. In fact, she adds, “a lot of companies go by a really weird ego scale—a sort of secret Da Vinci code.”

Less than 10 brands available in the U.S. sell condoms that could truly be classified as “small,” says Goldenberg. Meanwhile, although only about 15 to 20 percent of men need larger condoms, the market features more than 30 donkey kong condoms.

The good news is, things may be changing. A rising number of condom websites are giving customers new size options, and challenging them to be more honest about what’s dangling between their legs.

Lucky Bloke’s website prominently invites you to “find your condom size” by seeing if, and how, your erect penis fits inside the cardboard tube from a roll of toilet paper–WTF!

How does it work? If your penis has plenty of room inside the empty tube, almost too much, you need a small condom. (This accounts for 35 percent of men, their website claims.) If you have just enough room—not too tight, but not too loose—you need a medium-sized condom. (About 50 percent of men.)

And if the tube is extremely tight and almost painful, you’re in the large category (15 to 20 percent of men).

A clue, says Goldenberg: Girth is more important than length when it comes to choosing a condom.

As with anything having to do with safe sex, the responsibility is yours. Find out the true length of your penis—not for bragging rights, but to make sure you’re buying a condom that’s doing its job.

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Coffee or Tea which is better

Coffee and tea are not just simple beverages. According to Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc, coffee contains hundreds of different substances. Tea also has a variety of different substances such as theobromine, amino acids and antioxidants.

Caffeine and Health

Caffeine is present in both tea and coffee and does have health effects. The Linus Pauling Institute reports that an 8-ounce cup of coffee normally contains 72 to 130 mg of caffeine; black tea has 42 to 72 milligrams; and green tea 9 to 50 milligrams. Drugs.com notes caffeine can cause heartburn, sleep problems and anxiety, and increase blood pressure. People who are particularly sensitive to caffeine may react to relatively small amounts.

Coffee vs. Tea

Melinda Beck reported in the “Wall Street Journal” in December 2009 that coffee can decrease the risk of developing diabetes, stroke, Alzheimer’s disease and prostate cancer, but increase the risk of gallstones. The amount of coffee in each of these situations varied from three to six cups of coffee per day. On the other hand, the Linus Pauling Institute notes that tea protects against heart disease – both green and black tea are effective – while green tea protects against stroke and black tea protects against osteoporosis. The Institute notes that teas have been found to inhibit the growth of bacteria that cause tooth decay. Green tea can also interact with some medications, notably the blood thinner Coumadin, and tea may inhibit the absorption of iron from non-meat sources.

The University of Maryland reports that green tea reduces inflammation in Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis, may help to regulate blood glucose, and seems to protect the liver from damage. However, the university says that while green tea in particular has a reputation as a cancer preventative, the data at this time is inconclusive.

When Neither Drink Shows an Advantage
Sometimes neither coffee nor tea has a particular benefit. G. Fagherazzi noted in the April 2011 “Public Health and Nutrition,” that coffee, tea and caffeine intake had no relationship to breast cancer risk. Sometimes coffee and tea have similar benefits; a study led by K. Tanaka reported in the April 2011 issue of “Parkinsonism and Related Disorders” that coffee, black tea, Japanese and Chinese teas decreased the risk of Parkinson’s disease.

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No Sex… 

Lots of healthy and passionate women in lengthy intimate relationships are not having sex. I’m not talking about partners in sexual standoffs because of their toxic, disconnected relationships. This is a love story — and growing trend — about connected couples that cuddle and kiss, and perhaps play around in what sex therapists have termed “outercourse” — which is everything but intercourse.

Though some happy mates aren’t even going for that.

SurveyStud,Inc research shows dozens of stories about lasting love minus the sex.  Many couples are bound by the heart and history rather than the loins. Data shows it was the younger women of hooking-up age and older widows who were dating for the first time in 50-plus years that were the most breathless, even exploratory, about sex. Many midlife women were going through a dry spell — that had lasted months, even years.

Dips in desire from dealing with menopause and erectile issues were only partially responsible. Women gave many different answers to the survey: “Why aren’t you having sex?” They talked of not wanting to be touched. Of being too busy. Too exhausted. Too self-absorbed. Even: “It’s too much work.”

“I need to feel sexy but I don’t need sex,” was one memorable line from Chantel, a 45-year-old woman who is “madly in love” with her husband with whom she just celebrated an 18th year anniversary. They peck hello and good night but haven’t had sex since New Year’s Eve, 2011. I heard from Chantel and others how the nature of true intimacy is about so much more than what our bodies can do. Here is more from her on going from daily sex to no sex:

Chantel: When I met Richard it was extremely sexual — our record was five times in one day, and we would average six times a week. Then the norm became once a week, then twice a month, and now — nothing. When I hit menopause there was very little lubrication and at the same time my desire started to dry up. My husband was very accepting because his drop in libido matched mine.

We have all the cuddling and hugging and kissing, and all that’s wonderful. I admit that I miss intercourse, of being joined as one. I just don’t miss it enough to do anything about it. Without the inclination, there is no motivation.

So while I am having sadness over the loss of intimacy I don’t have any real desire to have sex. So It’s a Catch 22 — I want to want to, but I just don’t. We talk about having oral sex, we’re just not hot and heavy enough to both head South.

Yet this is a man that I am more madly in love with than when we were having sex several times a day. We have so many life experiences together, raising children, traveling, talking for hours. On an emotional and spiritual level we have an incredible bond. It’s more than a lack of hormones — there are just no more feelings of wanting to jump on each other. And neither of us want to take desire-inducing drugs.

I spoke with a gynecologist about this topic, and she said: “There are a lot of women in my practice not having sex any more and they are perfectly happy in their marriages. So don’t stress over it. You have a quality marriage without it.”

Furthermore Chantel indicated she has had a lot of time in this new phase of our lives to think about what sexuality really means. I realize that our hotness for each other was never just sex. It was an expression of deep love. Now without the physical passion that spiritual passion has become even more fiery.

Chantel’s story mirrors other women who shared how soulful love was sustaining their relationships more than mind-blowing sex. Gina, 52, is married for 20 years to a man who just turned 60. Their three children are in college. Like Chantel, she, too, was “hot, hot, hot — we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other,” during their courtship and in the first years of marriage. And now?

“Little or no touching,” said Gina. “Though I am still very attracted to him. I love his looks. I love the way he smells. But right now, I am in me-mode. I do not feel like sharing my body with anybody, even this person I love dearly. I want to get into bed and go to sleep, and not get all riled up and sweaty. We both hope that this is a phase, but I can’t promise you this is a phase. It’s starting to feel normal.”

Is no sex increasingly becoming the new normal? The answer is “yes” if it feels normal to you. Normal sexuality between a couple is what those two people feel meets their emotional and physical needs. It’s your relationship, not your sister’s, not your mother’s, and there is no gold standard number to aspire toward as a normal amount to get it on.

Your girlfriend who is always calling her partner “sweetie” and claims to be doing it every night may be flinging dishes at him when they get home, and they may sleep in separate bedrooms.

Even the most meticulous of sex researchers will never get accurate statistics on how often couples are having sex — because people tend to lie about sex. So don’t worry that your carnal activity isn’t measuring up to the cousin or girlfriend who claims she’s getting it every day. Because no one knows what’s really going on behind closed doors except the two people in that room.

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Where To kiss her…

Nearly anything you can do to a woman with your hands will feel better if you do it with your mouth! Use these five hot spots to arouse her instantly.

We spoke with Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc about kissing, and here are her research findings.

Goldenberg indicated based on research a woman’s body is an incredibly sensuous creation. The slightest kiss on the right spot can send shivers down her spine, give her chills or goosebumps, or make her body shake with delight.

Some women can even achieve orgasm from being kissed in the right place, even with no contact with her genitals!

The right touch for kissing is easier said than done. Bad kissing can completely kill the mood, or worse.

Kiss too hard on her neck and you’ll leave an embarrassing mark, suck too hard on her breast and you could hurt her. If your kiss is too light, you might tickle her. And of course, if you simply aren’t making her feel good, you will bore her, and she will be turned off.

The perfect kiss in the perfect place is not easy. Really, there’s no substitute for practice and experience, but if you follow this guide, you’ll be well on your way.

Classic kissing

Of course, when most people think of kissing, what immediately comes to mind is making out. There’s a good reason for this – a long, deep, sensuous kiss is hot! It’s how almost any sexual encounter begins.

#1 Lips. Smooching, French kissing, tongue action, sucking face, first base – no matter what you want to call it, kissing on the lips is essential. Being a great kisser can mean the difference between only getting a kiss, and getting much more.

A woman’s skin is quite sensitive, and this is especially true around the lips. Keep a clean shave, or condition your beard or mustache so it doesn’t irritate her skin. Few things ruin a kiss faster for a woman than feeling sandpaper rubbed on her face.

#2 Neck. The skin on the sides of the neck is some of the most sensitive on the body. Give it slow, sensual kisses with minimal suction. Drag the smooth, wet skin of your inner lips slowly over her skin and you’ll already start to hear her moan softly. Don’t be afraid to let your tongue play too, but don’t slobber her. After the kiss, her skin should be dry within a minute.

Neck kisses can go from just below her earlobe, down to just over her collarbone. Don’t kiss the front of her neck, as even slight contact can push on her windpipe. Don’t leave a “hickey” or any bruising marks.

#3 Collarbone. This is not as sensitive, but as you kiss her neck, you’re already right in the neighborhood. This is the area where her neck meets her chest and shoulder. Kiss just above the bone, and down from the base of the neck onto her shoulder. Soft kisses with minimal suction are best here.

#4 Ears. Ears are often neglected, but they’re a great spot for kissing. Gently suck on her earlobe and run your tongue behind her ear. This can be an especially good place to kiss during sex. Be careful though, loud breathing or kissing noises directly into the ear are not sexy at all.

#5 Breasts. After her genitals, her breasts are the most sexually sensitive part of a woman’s body. Some women can even achieve orgasm just from having them kissed. Anywhere on either breast is highly sensual, but the nipple is the most sensitive part.

You can usually kiss the breasts harder than other body parts, but keep in mind that every woman is different. Strong groping and sucking might feel amazing to one woman, but painful to another. Nipple squeezing and pinching can hurt like crazy, or drive her crazy. Also, in the days before her period arrives, a woman’s breasts tend to swell and become extra sensitive.

Start kissing her breasts slowly and gently. Gradually start to apply more pressure, squeeze and suck a little harder, and press her nipple tighter between your lips *not your teeth!*. She’ll give you cues as to whether she wants more. And don’t be afraid to ask. Establishing communication during foreplay is a key to great sex.

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Locking eyes during sex

When you are having sex and you are not looking straight into the eyes of the person, it seems that you are simply not interested, and you don’t have respect for the other person. When you are looking straight into the eyes of the other person it is a good way to tell her or him how much you love the person. When you look straight into the eyes it is a good way you engage the person. This is the right way you make her believe in your love. A look of trust is more than a touch of love.

Locking of the eyes while having sex is an experience so exciting and it adds drama to the whole event. It is true that men prefer looking at the partner but fixing their eyes on her is something different. This requires passion and it is important that you keep a sight contact with the person with whom you are in deadly in love with.

In most of the cases some men have problem with eye contacts. Actually men love to look at women, they like to sneak on the beach, look at pictures avoiding their wives knowledge. Looking at women and keeping eye contact are extremely different. During sex, eye contact play a vital role in orgasm. This helps to increase pleasure and understanding between the partners. This feeling is a sort of communication between partners not through words but mere look. Not everyone will enjoy such a feeling; some may not be comfortable looking into the eyes of their partner.

It is said that mostly men do not care for eye contact with other persons. The reason for it may be the hormone that rolls from the commencement week. This hormone is the circumstances the brain to look for, and create, less eye contact than women. In general, many men keep away from eye contact because it increases the level of arousal and can be aggressive too. So eye contact in reality make some men feel less or not more comfortable. Most of the women feel connected to their partner when they have eye contact. But they do know that their partner need not feel the same, so even if he feels connected with you he may not look eye to eye. In fact after all this discussion too it is very common for a female partner to value eye contact with her male counterpart. Given below are some things that can help you to get eye contact with your partner while making love.

1. Inward beauty: Concentrate on the inner side of your partner, her most beautiful natures like care for you, taking care of all your daily needs and values, her concern for the elders in an around you. After thinking all this you can look into her eyes, tell her how beautiful she is and how impressed you are, that will make her more honoured and attached to you.

2. Physical appearance: Every woman has a beauty, try to find it out and concentrate on it. As certain the real beauty of her and then look into her eyes tell her about it.

3. Extra ordinary thinking: You can go wild thinking how she can react and think all those you would like her to do, but do not get carried away. Be present when she is with you, such feeling can arose you and pass the feeling to her to while looking straight on her eyes

4. New Experiments: You can do new or different techniques before or during sex. Always new practises will increase expectations and will in force increase levels of arousal. This can help to promote visual contacts more.

Based on a 2015 SurveyStud survey of 400 women between ages 18 – 43, we found woman prefer eye contact while conversation and love making. Eye contact makes them feel trust worthy and more reliable too. So to have a better married life and good relationship it is better to have eye contacts, it may not be natural to you but can try to implicate it in your life for the betterment.

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