Kissing A Guy With Bad Breath

Looking back at a specific relationship, I am a little surprised I was down for the sh*t breath for so long. I think that had we not been cool and pretty good friends before we tried dating for a while, I probably would’ve nipped that in the bud early. But it’s amazing what you’re willing to look past when you genuinely like someone.

I’m writing this is because during a brainstorming meeting my boss (Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud,inc) said she wanted someone to explain the psychology behind being able to date someone with tart breath (to put it mildly) and never tell them about it. Before I knew, it I was opening my big mouth announcing, “Oh I did that.”

In my defense, I was 20, I had known the guy nearly all my life, and we didn’t date that long. Still, the joke to end all jokes on him was that his breath smelled like some sort of horrid combination of rust and metal. And there I was putting my tongue all up in and through the danger zone. Gag me. Literally.

Any time I was about to meet up with Yuck Mouth (YM,) there was anxiety in my stomach, worrying just what level of stank his mouth was going to reek of that day.

In all seriousness, gum was my lifesaver. I’m never one to leave home without it anyway, but I made sure to double up when I knew we’d be hanging out. And just in case any of you are finding yourself in the unfortunate position of slobbing a yuck mouth, know that the flavor must absolutely be wintergreen, green mint, winter mint, peppermint, or anything in that category. Messing around with that wildberry, bubble mint mess with have feeling like you just stuck your tongue in a field of strawberries that mother nature defecated on. Learn from me, don’t do it to yourself.

Being careful not to stand too close when talking also helped. Like with anything else, the longer you think about something the less likely you are to do it. If I would have been up in his face for too much time before we had one of our cheesy makeout sessions, I’m pretty sure I would have eventually ran the other way and pulled one of those curfew copouts or fake phone calls to get myself up out of that sticky spot. But when the odor doesn’t overcome you until right about the time that you’re ready to start exchanging pecks, those teenage hormones are already in overdrive and you figure eff it. What doesn’t make me throw up, only makes my stomach stronger.

As for why I didn’t tell YM about the atrociousness spilling from his oral orifices. Simple: I wouldn’t be telling him anything he didn’t already know or that would make a difference. The thing is, gum was like a band-aid over his breath. Heck, toothpaste was a bandage over that putrocity (yeah, I made that up). I was convinced my summer fling/friend thing had a serious case of halitosis and what I knew for sure, like Oprah says, is that simply saying “your breath smells” didn’t even cover the half and was surely not going to remedy that ailment

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Is Barack Obama the Face of America

When you look in the mirror do you see an image staring back at you that reflects your ideal image of beauty? Take a moment to describe the ideal woman’s physical features. What color skin tone does she have? How much does she weigh? What do her eyes look like? What does she wear when she goes out on the town? How is her hair styled?

Now take another moment to figure out the answer to this question: Where did your idea of beauty come from?

Because think about it, even though Donald Trump is now President of The United States, the world still sees Barrack Obama as President–so if the woman you described as ideal does not look like the woman you see in the mirror, chances are along your life journey you were bamboozled by someone’s impression of what a woman or beauty should look like.

Now don’t be upset. In our quest to decipher our purpose and mission in life we often adopt the beliefs and expectations of those around us in order to gauge whether we are living life correctly.

Suppose you were taught at an early age that you were expected to finish high school, go to college, get married, have children and retire by age 55. Those seem like reasonable life expectations don’t they? Well, how do you know that those expectations were the right path for YOU?

Now go back to the woman you described as your ideal image of beauty. Chances are you’ve met her before and it caused you great distress. Where did you meet her? Was she the woman who stole your first boyfriend? Was she the little sister who came along and stole all of the attention away from you when you were a child? Was she the most popular girl in high school? Was she the woman all the boys drooled over as she crooned pop music on television? Was she the girl who won all the awards at school without ever trying?

The point I am making is simple. If the ideal woman you imagined does not look like you, somewhere along the line you compared yourself to another woman and felt that you fell short. Somewhere along your life journey, you decided that there was another woman in existence who had something special that you did not. Somewhere along your life path, you listened to opinions about what is right and wrong and you decided not to decide for yourself.

Question: When is the last time you said to yourself… “I look good.”

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Queef 

Some feminists like to say that acceptance of female body hair is the final taboo — the final frontier of body shaming if you will. Well, I take your armpit hair and raise you a queef.

A queef is the sound a vagina makes when it sucks in a bunch of air for no reason, and then blows it back out. This sound is loud, disruptive, and often vibrates. Unlike farts, queefs are irrepressible.

While I can hold in a fart until I want to throw up, I cannot suppress a queef. No vagina-baring woman can. In fact, like fairies, queefs almost always make an appearance when you least expect them to – after standing up too quickly, while inverted at any point during a yoga class, or (my favorite), during and after sex.

Whenever I queef a few thoughts run through my head like, “FUCK!!!” or “NO!!!” and maybe, “NOT AGAIN!!”

Vaginas are beautiful flowers and vessels of joy, so it only makes sense that they should possess some glaring flaw. I get it… but does it really have to be the curse of the queef? It freaks me out that vaginas make such a ratchet noise.

Even a gross heathen like myself feels completely mortified, horrified, disturbed, and betrayed when their vagina sounds off like a foghorn without permission. I can’t help but think that post-sex queefs are equivalent to my vagina shaming me, smugly scolding, “PPPFFTT!!! Yeah, that’s what you get you whore.”

I’m still trying to figure out whether it’s best to acknowledge a sex queef when it happens, or to ignore it. I texted a few of my friends to share their queef experiences with me (lol at boundaries), and to confess whether or not they gave a crap.

Basically what I learned is the softest sex can cause an air raid. The sound is always so aggressive and unnecessary no matter what. It’s like okay, we get it. We heard it.

Occasionally a random article will pop up in my Facebook feed titled “Weird Things That Happen During Sex” or something stupid, and queefs always rank among the list. The subsequent advice is always to laugh it off and make a joke about it because body positivity, blah blah whatever.

Question: What do you say when a queef happens during sex?

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What Women Think About Attractive men

Like the comedic monologue in every rom-com you’ve ever seen is that semi-awkward moment where the protagonist sees a gorgeous, leading-man-type, hot guy. You can picture it now. The sucking in of your breath, the being slightly overwhelmed by their presence, and the thought of oh my God please don’t let my eyes bulge any further out of my head! It’s completely expected to have certain things pass through your mind during these moments.

The media has convinced women that beauty is something you should strive for and try to grasp at, especially when it is within your reach.

Why wouldn’t you crave the attention of an attractive man? Just to remind you that you’re not alone…  in your feelings, here are the thoughts most women have when we see a hottie:

Holy Sh*t He’s Hot. This is the standard, OMG reaction that many of you get when a gorgeous hunk of man meat walks in your general direction. It’s the recognition that this is a very attractive man and it’s taking you a minute to really grasp just how attractive. Usually, this is paired with eyes bulging out of your head, head turning, lower jaw dropping and possible perspiration. Just remember to keep it all in your head. Shouting “Holy sh*t you’re hot” at a complete stranger can sometimes be met with strange looks and restraining orders.

I’d Do Him. Men aren’t the only ones who can be controlled by their libidos. For women, it usually starts with some slight butterflies in your chest or stomach and it sometimes warms you all the way down to your knees. Fantasizing is completely normal, especially when someone you find incredibly attractive strolls by. You might even have these thoughts and gently bite your lip. Yes, that man is good enough to eat. Remember, it’s guilt-free because men do it all the time. It’s called the “yes or no” game.

He’s Better Looking Than My Ex. First and foremost, of course he is! There aren’t many men out there that aren’t better looking than your awful, lazy, slobby, finally-kicked-him-to-the-curb ex, unless your ex is Denzel Washington; in which case, our condolences, and alas, this hottie is NOT better looking than your ex. It’s normal to think these things, and the more you notice how beautiful other men are, the easier it is to forget and move the heck on.

I Wonder If He’s Good In Bed. The cat’s out of the bag. It’s not just men who look at an attractive woman and fantasize about sleeping with him. The difference is that women actually take a few moments to analyze the likelihood of him knowing what he’s doing or if he’ll just go at you like a jackhammer… for all of 3 minutes… if you’re lucky. So just keep in mind, it’s okay to think about it, and it’s okay to fantasize about it, but whether or not you proposition a complete stranger is up to you.

We’d Have Beautiful Babies. Every woman has fantasized about what her babies with a celebrity would look like. Think George T. Reynolds, Will Smith, Channing Tatum… the list goes on. People are hardwired to scope out their best possible mate. You make decisions based on height, appearance, job, hair colour, and many other factors. Everyone that has made the decision to have babies wants healthy, beautiful babies so go ahead, close your eyes and picture you and Mr. Gorgeous over there having a perfect, beautiful baby boy.

He’s WAY Too Good For That Girl. You may come across a handsome gentleman and you notice that he’s not alone. If he’s with a girl, you’re going to be prone to making the comparison between him and her. Most outsiders of relationships can look at one from afar and judge whether or not the relationship is ‘equal’. Which one is the better-looking one? Which one dresses better? Which one has the better job? OMG, he should not be with her. Followed usually by he should be with ME.

He’s WAY Out Of My League. Yes, you sometimes make the similar comparison you made to him and that other girl, but you sub yourself in, but shame on you! No one is out of you league. You can date anyone you want to. So it’s okay to have the quick thought where you know you want to date him, think that it could never happen, and then remember that if you really wanted to, you could. Put a smile on, catch his eye, purse your lips, keep walking and let him come after you.

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The “Thigh” Gap

I’m a girl with a slim build, I have small boobs and so on. But I have a thigh gap, which I’m kind of proud of because it is desired by girls to have one. But I’m often told that guys don’t actually notice or find it attractive.

Truth is the “thigh gap” has taken the nation’s female population by storm. It’s an unhealthy obsession with thinness that’s causing women to seek often unrealistic standards, fueled by the never-ending stream of social media that puts the coveted thigh gap on a high pedestal.

What is a thigh gap?

You’ve probably seen it all over the web—there are Tumblr accounts devoted to photos of thigh gaps, Twitter accounts dedicated to Cara Delevingne’s thigh gap and even articles with step-by-step instructions on how to get thigh gaps. The thigh gap is a diamond-shaped gap between the thighs that is visible when a woman is standing upright with her feet together. The thigh gap obsession is an alarming new trend focused on achieving and maintaining this space between the thighs, and it’s particularly prevalent among females who are in their teens through their early 20s.

Why is it so popular?

Women on Twitter and Instagram use hashtags like “thinspiration” to post selfies of their thighs as inspiration for weight loss and dieting. Images of slim, attractive models and celebrities in shorts and skinny jeans flood mainstream media, promoting the idea that thinness and fun go hand-in-hand. Fashion trends such as high-waisted, high-legged shorts are causing the thigh gap obsession to become even more prevalent.

Some women are convinced that having a thigh gap is attractive to the opposite sex. When there are pictures of good-looking guys with women who have thigh gaps all over social media, “the implication is you’ll get him if you have the thigh gap,” says Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, inc.

Given the normal fat distribution on the bodies of women of a healthy weight, achieving a thigh gap can be absolutely unrealistic. Women tend to carry additional fat around their hips, upper arms, buttocks and thighs. Fat on a woman’s body has always been distributed this way.

“Sadly, our standards of beauty involve being unrealistically thin in all of these areas,” Amy says. “There is a small, small proportion of girls and women who are naturally thin, and this kind of appearance is effortless for them; for the vast majority, maintaining this appearance can require dangerous caloric restriction and unhealthy habits. Women who live like this can actually miss out on life, so focused on food and appearance that they lag in their academic performance, job performance and ability to engage with other people and build relationships and friendships.”

Genetics and body structure play the biggest role in determining whether you’re able to gain a thigh gap in the first place. Many models are tall and skinny, and they have wide enough hips to have thigh gaps. Most women, however, have hips that are set too closely together to achieve a thigh gap even if they don’t have much fat on their legs. Many women can only get a thigh gap when they’re too thin to be healthy and there is muscle wasting in their legs due to restrictive eating behaviors. For someone with wider-set hips, however, a thigh gap is possible even with a healthy body weight.

But at the end of the day… [I feel regardless] if you have a gap or not, it really does not matter. Enjoy being you, not what society thinks makes a woman attractive.

Question: Do you think the Thigh Gap is attractive?

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Remedies For Blackheads

After doing the list on home remedies for acne, I started getting a lot of questions about blackheads in particular. Common and annoying, blackheads occur when your pores become clogged with excess sebum, and dead skin cells. The difference between a black head and a white head is simply whether or not the pore is open or closed. If the pore is open, the plug of sebum/skin cells oxidizes as it is in contact with the oxygen in the air, which turns it black. Blackheads are not caused by dirt. Let’s make that clear from the beginning.

Scrubbing your face obsessively is not a good way to get rid of your blackheads, and is only going to make it worse as you’ll just end up drying out your skin, which will cause more oil to be created to make up for everything you stripped away, and…well it’s a vicious cycle. For this reason, don’t use some of these remedies more than 2-3 times a week, such as the sugar scrub and pore strips. I know it can be hard to resist, but your skin will be better off this way:

1. Clay Time

Bentonite clay is a mineral rich healing substance that has been used for centuries to treat a number of ailments, chiefly skin related. Because of its molecules “electrical charge” when wet, it does an amazing job of drawing out oils or other impurities locked in your pores. When you apply the mask your skin gets to drink in all the minerals, while the clay simultaneously draws out the blackhead. It also helps with circulation, which helps with overall skin tone and health. You can mix the clay with water or apple cider vinegar, maybe sticking to the former if you have dry or sensitive skin. Experiment! This mask will make you feel like your face is tightening as it dries.

2. Egg White Mask

Egg whites form an easy mask that can be used to temporarily tighten pores, thus reducing chances of future blackheads, and will also remove current blackheads. Egg whites are also rich in nutrients for your skin, and are a little less drying than some other home remedies for blackheads.

3. Honey and Milk Pore Strips

Milk and honey both have properties that are good for skin. Honey has antibacterial properties, and the lactic acid in milk is said to help keep skin soft and supple. The main purpose here though is, when mixed together, to act as an adhesive.

4. Cinnamon & Honey Strips

It sounds like a delicious candy, but cinnamon and honey make a wonderful combination for getting rid of blackheads. Again, the anti-bacterial agents in the honey can help keep away bacteria that are causing acne (not necessarily blackheads, but still a bonus) as well as act as the adhesive to pull out anything clogging your pores. Cinnamon improves circulation, and this increased blood flow gives your skin a smooth, healthy, glow.

5. H2O Daily Blackhead Treatment

While pore strips and face masks work wonders, they can only be used several times a week to avoid drying your skin out to much. If you want to do something daily to prevent your blackheads, a gentle rinsing with water 1-2 times a day is the way to go. This keeps things that can make your pores appear larger-such as excess sebum and dead skin-flushed away and your pores clear. Be sure to use a light moisturizer when you are done to prevent your skin from trying to produce excess sebum to accommodate for dryness.

6. Toner for Tighter Pores

Since blackheads are caused by open, clogged, pores reacting to oxygen, it only makes sense that “shrinking” your pores down will help. Lemon juice is just the astringent substance needed to get the job done, however, it can lighten skin temporarily and it does make you sensitive to the sun, so load up on sunscreen if you plan on using this method in the summertime. If you have sensitive skin, try diluting the lemon juice with water first.

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Inner Thigh Cellulite

It is possible to reduce the appearance of cellulite. A combination of laser, massage, radio frequency, and suction treatments are available, but these remedies are pricey and only temporary. You’ll end up needing to fork over the moola for ongoing treatments in order to maintain your skin’s new look.

Don’t waste your money on cellulite lotions either since topical creams can’t penetrate the three layers of skin to eliminate the fat. What you can do is decrease overall body fat by doing calorie-burning cardio; try 60 minutes of cardio five times a week.

Unfortunately, cardio alone will not decrease the dimples. Flaccid muscle can increase the appearance of cellulite, so strength training is highly recommended.

Cellulite is more common in the lower body parts because everyone has natural layers of fat there. Here are exercises I use that helped me get rid of cellulite on my inner thighs. Note, while I cant speak for every woman out there, matter-fact I can only speak for me, so this is what I do:

Inner thigh squeeze for cellulite

For this Cellulite exercise of inner thighs, you will need an exercise ball. If your height is between 5”1 to 5”7, use a ball of 55 cm and if your height is between above that use a 75 cm exercising ball. Use a little deflated exercise ball for ease. Lie down on the floor and hold the ball between your thighs, while your legs are raised up in 90 degrees position. Apply only enough pressure to hold the ball between your legs. Once you have reached that position, now you press the ball with the inner thighs, applying as much pressure as you can. Repeat this exercise for at least 10 times. This exercise also targets the fat in your inner thighs.

Scissor Kicks for cellulite

Lie down on mat or the floor, keeping the legs straight in shoulder width distance and the hands straight on each side. Now lift one leg up, at least 5 to 7 inches up. Your leg should be diagonally straight, without bending from the knees. Now lift the other leg as well and move both legs back and forth, without letting you feet and legs touch the floor. Continue it for 30 seconds and then bring down both the legs and rest for 5 to 10 seconds. Take a deep breath and repeat the exercise again. Do at least 10 repetitions.

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How To Lose Thigh Fat

This morning Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc, and I had a conversation about thigh fat–with the main point: Do women need to know how to lose thigh fat?

I mean we all have different body shapes, and pear-shaped women are more prone to having thigh fat than others. However, this doesn’t mean that anyone else is immune to the horrible title “thunder thighs.”

If you feel unhappy with your thighs and want to know how to lose thigh fat, there are several steps you can take to focus on losing weight around your legs. Losing weight around your legs is not only aesthetically pleasing, but it’d be healthier for your legs. So with that said, when we got back to the office, Amy gave me some data for the blogg:

1. CLIMB STAIRS

If it’s conceivable, avoid taking the elevator and climb stairs wherever you go to help lose thigh fat. This raises your metabolism and works your thigh muscles. This is a simple tip which doesn’t require you to drastically go out of your way to do, and is a great way to tone your leg muscles. To be the most effective, it’s best to use a good technique. Lean a little forward from the hips and keep your back straight.

2. JOG

Jogging is a lot easier than running, and one of the best forms of cardio exercise. It burns fat and calories and is also beneficial for your whole body. However, jogging may eventually hurt your knees and ankles so make sure you have good shoes or run on grass.

Generally the best time of day to jog is in the morning as there is more oxygen in the air which helps burn more calories.

3. CYCLE

Cycling is another great form of exercise that works your legs, especially your thighs.

This tip on how to lose thigh fat requires you to buy/use a bike, or go to the gym.

However, it would be worth it as you could also use it to save money on public transport or driving, which is also better for the environment.

Cycling builds stamina, endurance and is a great toning device for your legs!

4. WALK BRISKLY

Don’t just stroll when getting around to places, walking briskly is another way to lose thigh fat that doesn’t require any special effort.

Power-walking burns calories and trims down fat in areas more than just your legs.

5. SQUATS WHILE HOLDING WEIGHTS

This sounds horrid and strenuous but is one of the most effective ways to lose thigh fat.

Grab some manageable weights in each hand (a bottle of 500ml water would do), bend your knees with your back straight at a 90 degree angle and repeat.

Do this slowly and carefully, until you feel your thighs burn!

Do this regularly and expect toned leg muscles in no time.

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Morning Wood

I read an article about a couple having sexual problems because the husband was not able to obtain an erection in the morning.

I thought this would be an interesting topic, so I reached out to Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc, and this is what the data indicate.

Many people assume a morning erection is a sign of sexual stimulation, however this isn’t always the case. Morning wood is likely the response his body has to one of several natural occurrences.

Goldenberg mentioned, during his waking hours, his body releases hormones to suppress erections. When he’s asleep, his body releases less of those hormones. Combine this fact with the other reasons he may experience an erection in his sleep, and nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT) becomes more likely.

What’s clearer is what doesn’t cause morning wood. For example, needing to urinate isn’t responsible for morning wood. Some people believe a morning erection keeps them from urinating during their sleep, but this is not true. Morning wood also isn’t always a sign of sexual stimulation. In many cases, NPT isn’t caused by dreams or thoughts of a sexual nature.

Having an erect penis when you wake is an indicator of healthy blood and nerve supply to the penis. The presence of  NPT also likely indicates that you’re physically capable of getting and maintaining an erection while awake.

If you stop experiencing NPT or notice that you’re not waking up with an erect penis anymore, this may be an early sign of an underlying medical problem.

Most likely, this is a sign of physical erectile dysfunction (ED). You may have something happening within your body that’s preventing adequate blood or nerve supply for proper erectile function. You may be more likely to experience ED if you:

– are overweight
– have high blood pressure
– have high cholesterol levels
– have diabetes
– have depression
– Certain physical disabilities may also make ED more likely.

Medications may also affect your ability to experience morning wood. Painkillers and some antidepressant medications may prevent NPT.

NPT may become less common as you get older, but if you’re young and are not experiencing a morning erection or if your erections suddenly stop, it may be time to see your doctor.

Who gets morning wood?

Men of all ages can experience NPT. It’s healthy at any age and is a sign of a properly functioning blood and nervous system in and around the penis. Young boys may experience NPT as young as 6 to 8 years old. NPT may also occur in men in their 60s and 70s. It will become less frequent as ED issues begin to occur, and those issues become more frequent with age.

Men may experience an erection three to five times each night. Unrelated to what’s in your dreams, NPT can last up to and even longer than 30 minutes. Some men may experience an erection as long as two hours during their sleep. Most erections will ease within a few minutes of waking up.

You stop having morning wood

If you frequently experienced morning wood but now aren’t experiencing it at all or have fewer erections, you should talk with your doctor. While it’s natural for episodes of NPT to occur less frequently with age, a sudden drop in frequency may be a sign of an underlying medical problem.

Bottom line

Morning wood is very common. It’s an indication of normal blood and nerve supply to the penis. Most young men will experience morning wood several times per week. As men grow older, however, they begin experiencing it less frequently.

If you stop experiencing NPT, this may be an early sign of an underlying medical problem. Pay attention to how often you experience morning wood and if it stops, speak with your doctor.

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Carbs & Weight Loss

Eating Carrots reducing the amount of carbohydrates in your diet is one of the best ways to lose weight.

It tends to reduce your appetite and cause “automatic” weight loss, without the need for calorie counting or portion control. This means that you can eat until fullness, feel satisfied and still lose weight.

Why Would You Want to do Low-Carb?

For the past few decades, the health authorities have recommended that we eat a calorie restricted, low-fat diet. The problem is that this diet doesn’t really work. Even when people manage to stick to it, they don’t see very good results.

An alternative that has been available for a long time is the low-carb diet. This diet restricts your intake of carbohydrates like sugars and starches (breads, pasta, etc.) and replaces them with protein and fat.
Studies show that low-carb diets reduce your appetite and make you eat fewer calories and lose weight pretty much effortlessly, as long as you manage to keep the carbs down.

In studies where low-carb and low-fat diets are compared, the researchers need to actively restrict calories in the low-fat groups to make the results comparable, but the low-carb groups still usually win.

Low-carb diets also have benefits that go way beyond just weight loss. They lower blood sugar, blood pressure and triglycerides. They raise HDL (the good) and improve the pattern of LDL (the bad) cholesterol.

Low-carb diets cause more weight loss and improve health much more than the calorie restricted, low-fat diet still recommended by the mainstream.

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