Keeping Her A Secret 

It’s obvious that the dynamic of relationships has changed since social media and the Internet. Whether you are in a “situationship”, relationship, or married, the display of being with someone else takes effect on social media platforms. 

Think about it. People are hooking up from online encounters. People are getting married from online connections. Think about any of your previous relationships and what role social media played in it. An important problem that continues to build and tear down relationships with (or without) a social media presence is: The difference between secrecy and privacy.

There is a difference darlings.

– Being secretive means you are hiding something.

– Being private involves acknowledging, but not oversharing.

Seems pretty simple right? Wrong.

There are both men and women who feel as though a relationship should be on full display for others to see. The constant pictures of kissing, holding hands, the status tags, etc. You all know what I’m talking about; the Over-Sharers. Great! We see how in love you all are, and just because people aren’t as gung-ho about your posts as you are, does not mean they are hating. Sometimes, it may actually just be YOU.

I commonly tend to think that this is a direct line coming from insecurities. Don’t be mistaken, this could be any of us at any given time. Like any other human, sometimes we need constant validation about different things. It also depends on the person you are with. If there are behaviors which they/he tends to justify–no “F” that. If there are behaviors causing you to doubt them/him PAY ATTENTION! Truth is you are doubting him for a reason.

Example, whenever $10+ is charged on my debit card, I get an email notification–guess what, I validate every notification. Why because it’s important to me. So when it comes to relationships, if you get a mental “notification,” maybe you should validate what’s going on.

So for those who love a private life, all I’m saying don’t fool yourself. You know if someone is keeping you a secret, and you know if someone just enjoys their privacy.

Question: Has anyone ever tried to keep you a secret?

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Female Friendship

Let’s face it, in the real world, female friendships can be tricky. Like romantic relationships, they often break up due to things like growing apart, having a major blowout, and jealousy. Yet why is it that we can see our friends perfectly but when it comes to ourselves, no matter how hard we look, do we ever see ourselves clearly?

I mean I have never been able to be friends with an ex-boyfriend. I meet these couples who stay friends and I think how? How do they do that? Truth being friendships don’t magically last forty years… you have to invest in them. Biggest question I have is where do they find the energy to invest, because I find woman catty at times, and view all my ex(s) as (dont judge me) Mr-fix-it, and “dial-a-dick.”

So I’m sitting here thinking about my male friends, and the type of male friends we as women should have.

So my thoughts are:

The Flirt. I know, I know. Some of you may be thinking that this treads on the friendship border into unknown territory, but it really doesn’t have to! Sometimes it’s great to have someone to flirt with. There is a mutual respect and understanding between him and you, that it doesn’t need to be taken that far if both of you don’t want it to. It’s great to hear compliments and to give them with the physical appreciation lingering between you two. Who knows, maybe this friend is the one you’ll end up with. They say it’s better to be friends first right?

The Gay Bestie. It’s 2017. If you don’t have a gay best friend, then you’re missing out! I LOVE my gay friends! They give the best dating advice, help you pick outfits, and even better, they’re blunt, just like I like them! If you find a loyal friend, they will defend you to the end. You get to avoid all the female drama that can be overwhelming and unnecessary, while vibing with someone’s energy you truly enjoy. They give the best compliments too!

The Big Brother. It’s nice knowing that you have someone who loves you and is looking out for you. As a woman, yes, we can defend ourselves and handle our business, but to know you have a “big brother” just feels more settling. They also give great advice and can give you insight on the guy you’re thinking of dealing with. You can vent to him, he can meet you for drinks, and ensure you get home safe without all the fuss of a typical “hook-up.” These Big Brother types can learn how to treat a lady from the advice you give them. This relationship is beneficial to you both!

Mr. Fix-It. I have no clue how to put a bookshelf together. Nor do I know how to handle the tools that could help me to complete the task. This is where Mr. Fix-It comes in-the guy you always call to help you put up paintings, pick up heavy objects, and just do general labor that you need help with. What makes this guy interesting, is how happy he is to help! It’s as if he enjoys that “superman” complex in helping a woman in need. I’ve seen men call their other friends together and tackle projects for a female. I find it hilarious, but also comforting that there is still chivalry, in some aspect, alive.

The Party Guy. We all know that one guy who is at every FETE! He knows about every party, he was/is a party promoter, or just knows enough of them from all the parties he’s gone to. I don’t care what kind of female you are; You. Need. This. Man. In. Your. Life. These are the ones who lift your spirit, who encourage you to get out of whatever funk you’re in, and you are guaranteed to have a good time without feeling the pressure of hooking up with him. They know how to make you laugh, and you get to relax!

Question: Can you think of another type guy we need around?

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Donuts are healthier than Bagels.

Donuts, even the plain kind, are perhaps one of the most fattening breakfast options available. However, that doesn’t stop millions of people from indulging in these sweet treats for breakfast. On the other hand, bagels can be considered a much more traditional breakfast food than donuts ever will be. But while bagels only seem healthier because they are not deep-fried like donuts, they are surprisingly unhealthy as a breakfast option (or as an option for any time of day) and may, in fact, even be unhealthier than donuts.

Health Issues With Donuts

Donuts are not ideal for breakfast because of their high calorie content and also their high carbohydrate content. Even as a snack, they are unhealthy, so your best course of action is to limit how many donuts you munch on. You can eat more donuts if you correspondingly increase your daily exercise in order to burn off all those extra calories and carbohydrates that you are taking in, but that is not realistic for most people due to the stresses of life. A typical donuts, such as a simple glazed donuts, already brings with it 229 calories and 25 grams of carbohydrates. Other, fancier types of donuts such as those with chocolate or filling will easily increase those totals by a significant margin.

Health Issues With Bagels

While bagels are generally a more traditional breakfast food than donuts, they are surprisingly unhealthy. They may be even worse than donuts in some nutritional aspects. Calorie-wise, you are basically just as bad off eating one bagel as you are eating one donut. For example, one basic, plain bagel has 215 calories, which is just a little bit better (but not significantly better) than the calories in one glazed donut. However, carbohydrate-wise, just one plain bagel takes a harder toll on you because it comes with 42 grams of carbohydrates. The real shocker about bagels is their extremely high content of sodium. Just one plain bagel can already account for a good chunk of your daily recommended intake value of sodium. A plain bagel carries with it an astounding 443 milligrams of sodium, and just a few bagels can already take you well beyond your daily intake recommendations for sodium.

Which is Healthier?

I asked Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, Inc, between Donuts and Bagels, which is heathier, and these are her thoughts:

“Donuts are just a little bit healthier than bagels as a breakfast food. Based on two things: carbohydrates and sodium.”

While this can vary based on the type of donut that you have, carbohydrates and sodium are not as high in donut as they are in bagels. While bagels have, generally, fewer calories, they are worse for you in terms of carbohydrates and sodium content.

If you add additional things to your bagel–such as the ever-popular cream cheese spread–you will only add to the already higher amounts of both carbohydrates and sodium in your bagel.

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