The first time I ever gave head, my then-boyfriend came in my mouth before I had time to say, “are you almost finished here.” I was 16, and after it happened, I looked back up at him for reassurance. I was a hot mess – semen dripping down the side of my face, hair disheveled, mascara running off of one eye. He took one look at me and grimaced.
Anyway, that was years ago, and I’m happy to report that my technique has improved, as have my bedroom manners. But oral sex comes naturally for exactly no one. It is a learned skill set–so let the class begin.
1. Hands are the key to using your mouth
So! You thought blow jobs were only done with your mouth. Well, you’ve been approaching it all wrong. Hands are an essential part of a good bee j–because hands can create the kind of friction that a mouth can’t.
A great blowjob is often a combination of using your hand to tug on the penis while adding sensation and suction with your mouth. You can also use a finger or two to put pressure on the perineum (the taint) for an external prostate massage. If you press on this, you can really enhance a man’s orgasm.
2. Good news! You don’t have to deep throat
Anyone who has ever had a cock in his or her mouth understands the pressure to deep throat. You just kind of feel like you have to. But good news! Deep throating is not necessary.
However, should you want to take an entire penis all the way down your esophagus–well the best way to do so is to have the natural curve of the penis in question follow the natural curve of your throat.
Try it first with him on his back and you on your side. Keep your hand on the base of his cock to go at your own pace. Swallow when you feel like you have reached your limit which will help to go further and widen your throat.
3. Don’t neglect the balls
I feel like this is something that everyone knows, but kind of ignores. Balls just kind of hang there, right? You can always cup them if you want to, but who feels like doing that? Well, (and I paraphrase), stop being such a lazy asshole.
Most guys like their balls being cupped during a blowjob. Interesting fact.
4. A final tip: Vibration
My favorite unconventional blow job tip: Vibration. Meaning men typically think [vibration] is only for women, but you can use a vibrator behind the balls, pressed against the perineum, to really intensify his experience.
Question: Has your technique improved over the years?
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