Do women see short men as lepers? Not quite, though it does seem that most women feel that short men aren’t relationship material. Having heard short male friends of mine complain about their jeopardized status in the dating pool, I can speak for at least some of them when I say that short men believe that women see them as less than or deficient, as if models pulled off an assembly line because they don’t measure up to the others.
If we conceptualize the dynamic along a continuum of developmental stages, it’s as if women see short men as awkward teens stunted in time, desperate at a school dance and relegated to the side wall.
In short, it seems that somehow short men aren’t perceived as real men.
Now I’ve spent the majority of my dating life with tall guys. One guy was so tall I had to stand on my tip-toes to kiss him. I liked having taller boyfriends—-I just thought that was how it was supposed to be.
In reality, the problem isn’t short guys—it’s us/me. We’re so hung up on whether a man has a few inches to spare that we tend to miss one important fact: This is a person we’re talking about, and we’re judging them on their height, of all reasons. We might as well take a pass on a potentially great guy because his leg hair curls the wrong way… that was a bad example. Anyway.
The reason I’m writing about this, my Uber driver has his seat uncomfortably close to the steering wheel, and it made me realize I’m not attracted to short men. I mean this guy is super nice but: could he protect me in a bad situation–can a short guy protect me, and it’s not the fact that he’s short it’s the 23yr old image imprinted in my mind of what protection looks like.
In my mind the image of protection looks like my dad: 6’2, very athletic, protective A-Type personality. Which probably explains why I alienate short men.
I really need to think about this. I will stop for now, but I realize I have this unconscious bias towards short men.
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