The Selfish Years…

The CEO of SurveyStud, Inc said something I would like to share with you guys.

He (George T. Reynolds, CEO, SurveyStud, Inc) said, “Your twenties are your selfish years. They are not meant for you to invest large amounts of time, and energy into a relationship–it’s a period of discovery.” Woah…

Does that mean you shouldn’t have one?  No, not at all. Your twenties, though, are meant for you to find your passions, to learn, to travel, to see everything, to experience everything, to manifest your dreams, and to mold yourself into someone you’re content with, so that when you’re 70 years old rocking on a porch swing next to the love of your life, you don’t have any regrets. You want to know you did everything you possibly could and wanted to do in your life.

After hearing this, I truly believe that in your/my early twenties, a relationship’s sole purpose is to help each other grow. Motivate each other. Inspire each other. Support each other in everything the other wants in life. If you are in a relationship, it should be because you love that person’s soul. You love their interests, passions, hobbies, company and vibe so much that you want to be there to support and motivate them to keep working on themselves until they have reached their full potential, and vice versa.

When two people are each so happy and content with their own self, that is when they can be truly happy together.

You shouldn’t have expectations. That’s a mistake I’ve made in the past and a mistake anyone can be guilty of. If you and that person are meant to be together, you will be together. You don’t need to worry about where the relationship is going, whom the other person is talking to, or what they’re doing when you’re not around. Real love does not hold jealousy, it does not hold envy, and it is not self-seeking. What you need to worry about is accomplishing every experience you can, whether it is something as small as having a beer with a coworker or as big as taking a year trip to India.

Keep on doing these things till you’ve put the tin lid on who you truly are, and just sit back and patiently cheer on everything your significant other’s journey entails as well. After it all, if you two are still in love, well then that’s just beautiful. That’s just real.

Question: Did you know what you wanted, and how to get it in your 20s?

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SurveyStud: In the App Store

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One thought on “The Selfish Years…

  1. Hmmm. My twenties, they certainly were selfish times, but that’s for one simple reason – no kids. It’s that simple. My wife and I had time. Lots of time, to ourselves. We had a little bit of money, and we spent it, as we saw fit. So I think that’s the message here. When you get on to having kids, its game over – at least for a few years as you will be constantly doting on them as young parents. It gets a bit easier as they get older and gradually gain more independence, but all the while you are paying for them etc. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and enjoys spending time with them, but you realise, as you get out of your twenties, that it isn’t about you anymore! Hugs.

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