When you’re about to have sex with a woman, the last thing you want to do is turn her off. A lot of men are unaware of what they’re doing wrong in bed, which is where Amy Goldenberg, Consumer Research Analyst, SurveyStud, inc comes in.
Goldenberg echoed, helping couples (female/male focus) become more aware means helping them become better lovers, and toward that end, we at SurveyStud, want to make sure you’re aware of mistakes to avoid in bed.
1- Not kissing
Believe it or not, the data shows many men don’t kiss the woman they’re with when they’re having sex — and that’s one of the biggest mistakes to avoid in bed. Why don’t these men kiss? Perhaps because the positioning doesn’t allow for it. Nevertheless, we recommend that you make an effort to kiss your woman when you’re inside her.
2- Biting before she’s ready
While plenty of women enjoy an aggressive man, biting any part of her body before she’s fully aroused may lead to pain and discomfort. Make sure she’s fully excited before you bite her nipples, shoulders, neck, or any other part of her body.
3- Ignoring everything but sexualized parts
Breasts and vaginas are great — no doubt — but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of her body. Lick behind her knees, kiss her wrists, rub her back, caress her stomach; focus on her entire body. It’ll turn her on more and, in turn, increase the chances of her pleasuring you back.
4- Putting your weight on her
It’s OK to lose yourself in the moment every once in a while and go crazy on your woman. However, when you’re lying on top of her, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on her, in essence hindering her ability to breathe properly — which is never a good thing during sex.
5- Ejaculating too soon/too late
You need to have good penile control to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too soon and she may be unsatisfied; too late and she starts feeling like sandpaper. If you can’t control yourself and end up letting go too soon, spend a lot more time on foreplay. If you last too long and can only ejaculate via manual stimulation, do your best to give her an orgasm and then get her to satisfy you manually.
6- Not warning her about ejaculate
If you’re going to come, whether it’s inside her vagina, in her mouth or anywhere on her body, you need to tell her beforehand. Something as simple as “I’m going to come,” will suffice. She deserves to know.
7- Treating sex like porn
Although some couples enjoy having nasty, raunchy sex, you’d be wise to talk to the girl you’re going to sleep with before you engage in such behavior. If you begin forcing her head back and forth when she’s sucking you, or you pound away on her and start spanking her without knowing if she likes it first, chances are the scenario won’t end on a happy note.
8- Staying quiet
We’re sure you want to hear when your woman is enjoying herself, so pay her the same respect and give her a bit of dirty talk. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, “That feels so good,” will encourage her.
9- Pumping away like a jackhammer
It may feel good for you to pump in and out of a woman like you’re in a sprint, but stats show most women don’t enjoy such an act, at least not off the bat. Mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slow down. Go all the way in at times, and other times let only the tip of your head in.
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