“…Just move into my house, share my bed and help me raise my children.”
Is looking for a partner with an admirable career a sign of a “rescue fantasy” in thousands of women, or is just common sense to want a competent, courageous, well-paid partner?
A recent survey from SurveyStud, Inc revealed that the two most desired careers for potential mates of New York City women are “firefighter” and “Wall Street executive.”
Your friends at SurveyStud chalk this up to a Cinderella complex. Women, by their line of thinking are so dissatisfied with their/our lives that we spend our days pining for that valiant hero to sweep us off our feet and ride us off into the “you don’t have to work anymore!” sunset.
On HuffingtonPost, Jessica Pearce Rotondi thinks it’s not so clear-cut—or at least not so pathetic. “Given the current economic climate,” she says, “The desire for sudden deliverance is more understandable than ever.” Women are still under-earning men and, in a period of job creation over the last year that netted 1.3 million jobs, only 10% of them went to the girls. At work that’s a problem.
Another interesting finding during the survey is the majority of married working moms shoulder more than 75% of parenting work and household chores nearly 80% of them are resentful towards their partners as a result.
These are women who say they bring home 50% or more of their household income.
Is it any surprise, then, that single women dreaming of the perfect mate would name professions that seem brave, trustworthy, physically fit, upwardly mobile, helpful, competent, supportive, oh-god-uniform sexy…?
The point here, is that everyone fantasizes about the ideal. That’s the difference between McDreamy and the real guy in your life. For that, we’re looking for a partner: one we can trust to share life equally with, from paychecks to bartabs to missing-sock-finding and dirty-diaper-changing. He may be a math teacher. He may be a journalist or a customer service rep at the phone company.
But while we’re talking ideals, we’re gonna go ahead and make him a firefighter. It can’t hurt.
And it certainly doesn’t make us Cinderellas.
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